Seasoned blogger Chris Vincent has expressed his viewpoint on married couples who reside in different houses.
The British-based Ghanaian lawyer claims that married couples grow tired of one another when they move out while still living together and after spicing things up.
According to Chris, two dwellings help keep a relationship exciting and prevent monotony. He thinks that keeping things interesting and allowing for personal growth are two benefits of having space apart.
Vincent supports the notion that living in close proximity to one another yet in separate residences might improve intimacy and general well-being.
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He contends that this structure fosters originality and spontaneity in the partnership. While acknowledging that many people may find it difficult to live this lifestyle due to financial constraints, Vincent advises thinking about other options, such as living in separate rooms within the same house. In order to preserve a happy and healthy relationship, he stresses the value of having options.
Read His Statement Below:
Amongst my many ideas about life and living, I understand that poverty makes us take positions, and accentuate them so deep into our lives that we begin to consider them natural—even if the alternatives (though expensive) are better or plausible.
I do not believe in living in the same house, worse, the same room with your partner—every day. Having a certain margin of space helps relationships grow and spice things up.
Trevor Noah agrees with this too. He believes cohabitation is a relationship killer.
This is my ideal relationship. If the man can afford it, he should get two properties not far from each other—his woman (with children if any) will live in one and he will live in the other. If he believes in more than one partner like I do, he needs 3 or more properties set up this way.
Your partner will come to spend regular time with you or you go to her place whenever needed. The change of scene itself spices up sex, communication and general well-being. This is a fact.
The brain creates attractiveness and wonderful experiences this way.
There is nothing more interesting than waiting in bed, on a white bedsheet, with candles and with some music playing—and waiting for your partner to join you.
Of course, you can stage the above if you live in the same house. But the brain is not stupid—it will know it is a studio set-up.
Our grandfathers were not acutely mentally constipated when they usually lived somewhere and their partners lived somewhere.
But economic restrictions make this lifestyle almost impossible. Paying for 2 or more houses as a man is not a small feat to be achieved. But if you can and you want a spicy adventurous life, go for it.
Even if you cannot afford more than one whole house, what about having different rooms in the same house? His room and her room? What happens if you want to be in bed at 3am to watch your favourite documentary and she needs a good night’s sleep—and both of you are stuck in the same bed?
There is no argument against having options, except financial constrictions. But many people wouldn’t accept this and influenced by financial limitations which we all face will argue that partners should stay in the same room, each day of their lives until they die. That’s a mess—when the person farts each time, it will be in your face.
What about room temperature? Some people can only sleep better in the cold, others in the warm and some don’t even want the air conditioning on. You can sacrifice your good sleep for some time when both of you are together. But to do so every day forever will shorten your life. This is also a fact.
Some even go as far as saying, children and parents should share the same room. Why? Because they cannot afford separate rooms for their children—they have convinced themselves this is right and will argue from the Earth to the moon that this is a convenient and admirable set-up.
How many rich men live in the same room or house with their partners? Looking back in history, the Kings, nobles, aristocrats and prominent men of society had separate houses or at least rooms from their partners.
I cannot agree that Alexander the Great, Socrates, Plato or Kwame Nkrumah shared the same room with their partners each night of their lives. How were they even going to reason or ever plot their ideas?
Many people are simply roommates in their relationships—consider the relationship of your own parents if they live together in the same room.
If you want what works for a long time (even if for a short time but exciting), then you need to spice up your way of thinking.
As men, we have to work hard at making things happen—for us and our partners.
Wouldn’t you love to text your partner and say, “Are you asleep? Come around if you are not and then she calls–I am on my way.”
This is why I say, even domestication of sex/having sex every day of your life at Adjei Kojo, Amasaman or Kasoa (in the same country until you die) should be a relationship sin.
Grab someone’s daughter and take her to a different country, open the hotel’s top floor curtains of your room and gently cuddle her to the beautiful yellow lights of the city–and you wouldn’t need a gallon of lubricant.
What about walking through the streets of another city like Paris, Washington DC or even Jerusalem and then spanking that ass of your woman–sending a strong signal that you are about the devour someone’s daughter?
Spice things up. You are not a stone, grinding should not take place at the same location every day of your life.
Now, think about having to have sex every time with the same partner, in the same house or room, staring at the same 4 walls—and you say your brain shouldn’t feel bored.
The alternative works better and we all know it.
Imagine conceiving all your children in different countries–and the stories you can even beautifully tell about this.
For me, I know who was conceived where–and it brings smiles.
By the way, that photo is of Wanja.